microbraidthinthumbs asked: why have you disabled comments on your blog?
Once upon a long time ago, someone posted a picture of me on a GOMI forum laughing and said “this girl’s a fake — she takes all of these compliments about how PRETTY she is but she never posts pictures of her fucked up teeth — she just takes the compliments without revealing how weird and ugly her mouth is” (paraphrasing, bust something like that). I was appalled — one because I didn’t consider myself to be a “mouth-and-gums-and-teeth” blogger, but a fashion blogger, so I really didn’t understand what my mouth-and-gums-and-teeth had to do with anything. Two, because that was a picture of me where I was genuinely happy, and I hated that someone might twist my happiness in an effort to try to make me feel bad about something I can’t control. Three, because dear god, I don’t blog because I want compliments about my appearance. I blogged because it was fun and I met interesting people and it was inspiring to me to be part of that community. So, soon after that, I disabled comments on my blog because I didn’t want the compliments, I didn’t want it coming across as though I did this thing for validation. I was gonna do it regardless of what people thought, so it didn’t seem necessary to have a vehicle there for feedback of any kind, good or bad.